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Your Inner Critic is Just a Mean Girl/Douchebag

Your Inner Critic is Just a Mean Girl/Douchebag If you struggle with your inner critic and want stop being mean to yourself, it can be helpful to know what you are dealing with. As per the title says, it's just a mean girl/douchebag voice from high-school. In order to learn how to respond to it, first you have to understand what your inner critic is and what it does. Your inner critic is not a reflection of reality . It's a perspective of yourself that you've indoctrinated as a result of destructive life experiences, often times early life experiences and either direct or indirect negative treatment or attitudes, i.e. abuse, bullying (I hate this word, it's still abuse), poor frames of reference in family members. Of course there are a myriad of additional reasons, reasons that would need to be explored in therapy. Understand what it does Blames you fo

Manipulation Station

Realizing you've been manipulated or are currently being manipulated by someone you love is frustrating to say the least. Sometimes it takes knowing these people and having them in our lives to show us what we don't want to become, what we are capable of becoming and who we really are. Manipulators knowingly and often times unknowingly provoke others to behave in ways they would not normally behave. It offers them some sense of control and satisfaction to get you to the point of acting uncharacteristically; so they aren't the bad guy. At times they might even say, "You are making me look like the bad guy"..implying that you are the problem. If you are like me you'll try to see past their issues and love them anyway. If you don't see through their tactics or ignore them, it will inevitably take a toll on you and often times drive you to the point of questioning who you are. Constant criticism and fault finding for not meeting ridiculous demands and expect

Kesha Martin MA, LPC, NCC, BC-TMH

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